Ay Mijita ✨ Embrace your raíces. Reclaim your esencia.
My personal journey of transformation in body, mind and spirit. Sharing life events and hard lessons learned to break free from the cultural Mexican-American limiting beliefs as first born generation in the United States. A glimpse into healing my generational wounds through holistic modalities through emotional intelligence, astrology, self care and tools learned. Join me on facing adversities of moving through to get on the other side. Inspiring others to be the best version of themselves and walking away from the perfectionism trap.
Ay Mijita ✨ Embrace your raíces. Reclaim your esencia.
Navigating Setbacks, Rebirth & the Cold Supermoon
The hardest seasons don’t just take things from us; they ask who we’re becoming. I’m sharing a raw, heart-forward look at navigating setbacks during the cold supermoon, from slow surgical healing and a shifting chemo timeline to money wounds that echo louder than the numbers suggest. If you’ve felt heavy, confused, or like you should have been “over it” by now, you’re in the right room. We explore why healing spirals, how astrology can frame timing without dictating fate, and what it means to move through a dark night of the soul without losing yourself.
You’ll hear the real-life frictions: mobility limits, winter blues in Chicago, the sting of postponement, and the awkward art of receiving help when you’re used to carrying everyone else. We walk through seven grounded lessons that make the chaos make sense—rest as a strategy, intuition as compass, boundaries that sharpen in storms, and the quiet truth that grief and growth can happen at the same time. Then we translate insight into action with a clear, simple recovery toolkit: breathwork, movement, journaling, and a cold moon limpia ritual to release what no longer serves so you can call in what’s next.
This conversation blends astrology, psychology, and lived experience into something you can use tonight. Think of it as energetic pruning: let go to grow, clear to receive, rest to rise. Along the way, I talk about trading control for clarity, trusting a future self who already exists, and leaning on ancestors for courage that doesn’t flinch. If something in your life is ending, consider this a mirror and a map. Press play, take what you need, and meet me under the moonlight as we make space for the version of you who’s waiting to step in. If this spoke to your heart, subscribe, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review telling me what you’re releasing next.
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Ay Mijita. Welcome back to another episode of Embracing Your Raíces, Reclaim Your Essencia. Today is episode 30. And honestly, que viaje, what a journey. I'm recording this episode during one of the most emotionally charged times of the year. Right before the December 4th cold moon, the last supermoon of 2025. And if you've been feeling heaviness, confusion, grief, setbacks, or life is throwing plot twists at you, you're not alone. I'm right here with you. This episode is for anyone who is navigating a setback, recovering emotionally or spiritually, grieving the old version of themselves, walking through a dark night of the soul, craving clarity, peace, or closure, trying to understand why this is happening now. We're going to weave the astrology, the life lessons, and the very human emotions that come with change. Because setbacks aren't just moments, they are initiations. Life doesn't just take things away, it transforms us in the process. So grab your cafecito, your sage, your journal, lo que tu necesites, and let's journey through this together. Let's talk about setbacks, the unexpected, the W2F life moments. A setback doesn't always mean failure. Sometimes it means your energy is being redirected, something is being cleared, your identity is shifting, your capacity is evolving, your boundaries are upgrading. And sometimes a setback is simply the soul saying, slow down. Something deeper needs to need your attention. I want to share what the season has felt like for me. I'm navigating my own version of setback, emotionally, physically, spiritually, you name it. And it's the kind of moment where you feel like I thought I was past this. I thought I was healing already. I thought the worst was over. Why am I still feeling this heaviness? And just recently, this past week, I went to my follow-up for my plastic surgeon. And the big setback for me right now is I'm not healing all the way I thought I would be by now. Um, I know I'm three and a half weeks in from my last surgery, but there's a lot of big gushy wounds that I'm healing, like literally, physically in my body, and it's starting to become itchy, my incisions and the all. But that's where I'm so eager to go back to work. I'm so eager to put on all my various projects. But then I'm also healing like this part of me that and starting to grieve, this old version of me. The other big thing that's been coming up for me lately are my money wounds. I have cash flow. We have cash flow. Fortunately, Feely works, my husband, I work. Right now I'm on short-term disability, which I'm happy I was able to apply for that because I didn't know. And my insurance is paying for most of everything, and I'm so blessed in that regard. But I still feel like that 16-year-old that's broke as hell, and I don't know why. I don't know why it's coming up. I don't know why I have these like scarcity mindset moments of I'm not gonna have enough money, or we're not gonna have enough, or how are we gonna do it with the holidays? How are we going to host because we are hosting, you know, all the different things and on an energetic level, but then financial level, and all the things. For some reason, my body remembers, re-remembers all that is going to happen. Like, I always feel like we're always gonna have a broke Christmas or I'm gonna have that January hangover, and I don't want that anymore for myself. And that is a version of me that I know is no longer true. And so that's what I'm gonna use this full moon to meditate on, and that's what's coming up for me. But Reina, healing isn't linear, it spirals. It revisits old rooms so you can turn on the light. Setbacks show up to pause you, redirect you, or reveal you. And sometimes they show up to strip away the version of you that can no longer hold who you're becoming. Right now, I'm moving through what my spiritual teachers call a dark night of the soul. It's that inner death, that phase where you feel like you're losing yourself, but in reality, you're shedding everything that isn't you anymore. It's grieving your old coping mechanisms, the version of you who always survived, the identity shaped by trauma, the version of you that stayed silent, the one who carried everyone else, the one who never asked for help. And as I follow, Cheney Nicholas reminds us often that astrology doesn't tell us what will happen, it tells us what we're healing through. This cold moon is tr revealing what is ending so the truth can finally rise. During a dark night of the soul, you may feel emotional overwhelm, deep exhaustion, identity confusion, loss of motivation, irritation with old environments, a desire to isolate, increased intuition, old wounds resurfacing, the urge to burn everything down and start over. The dark night is not punishment, it's purification. It strips away who you had to be so you can become who you were always meant to be. And so that's where I'm at right now is I'm rethinking and I'm just questioning everything in my life right now, like from my relationships to how I handle my money to how I go about my business. And I know I recorded a couple weeks ago my podcast on pivoting, pivotando, and that's where I feel right now. It's like not that I'm spiraling out of control, and it's more of like especially thinking I'm 2026, like, what do I want to do? Right now I'm in a position where I'm healing my body, but my mind, and there's so many sleepless nights that I've had that I've had so many downloads, divine downloads, of this is what I should be focusing on. And there's so much need in the world right now that I know that by sharing my journey, so many people have reached out that they find hope that navigating some challenge, how I do it so graciously. And it's like I I don't, I lean on other people, I call my friends or they call me and check in on me. And that took years to build. But I'm sure that if you have the right people in your corner, you're able to navigate anything that comes and being thrown at your way. But you also need to be able to assess and discern what is it that you need to feel supported and helped. So that's where I think my starting point is. It's like right now, what do I need? Like, I know I have all the support that I need and all the resources, right, that I can tap into, but what is it that I'm craving for? Like right now, my body is craving for my doctor and all the things so I can heal better, right? Physically. But then emotionally, I have a therapist on call if I need it. And I've been meeting with her more often right now because I want to make sure I'm doing things that honor myself and I want that bouncing board. Now for nutrition, um, I am going into chemo, and I think that's why I'm a little frustrated right now, is because yesterday, Wednesday, December 3rd, I had my follow-up appointment, and these wounds are not healing as they should, and that's gonna throw off everything for the chemo, which is supposed to start December 19th. And I was thinking yesterday, I was kind of bummed, not gonna lie, that I just want to get this over with with the chemo. But then again, the holidays are coming up. I mean, is it really a bad thing to just postpone it a little bit? And then the other thing that happened to this week is I went to my occupational therapist on Tuesday and I started doing the exercises. And goodness gracious, am I sore from my chest, from my back, from my arms? Like my range of mobility is not what it used to be. But I was so used to carrying 25-pound weights like on each arm and doing like and crushing it and doing the lunges and having the bod and everything, and like I worked years on it, and I was finally getting on a track, and then all of a sudden it's like boom, everything comes crashing down, everything halts, and now I can't even lift more than a pound. Um, and my restrictions right now are five pounds, and it's not fun because like my butt is being shaped by the recliner. No joke, like the dents of the recliner are in my butt, like for a few hours, and that's not fun. So I know my body's changing, I know I'm absorbing a lot of water and everything right now, but I know it's temporary, but still in this temporary state, like I feel and in right now in Chicago, it's winter. I feel like I am in this winter state right now, and it's hard to navigate. And I don't know if I have a shovel right now because I can't even shovel my own damn driveway. My kids and my husband needed to shovel it, and because of our snow blower, it went out. Um, we did order parts and hopefully they'll be fixed. Feed me, Mr. Feedney, my husband, can fix it. But if not, that's like a whole nother thing of like, you know, inconveniences and things of that nature, and of course, first world problems, right? But going through this journey has taught me to really like take set back seat, if not back, back, back seat, to everything. And just not that I'm meticulously looking at everything, but it's a very different perspective of life. Of like, what are what is the shit that actually matters? And instead of fretting about the stuff that doesn't, because that's you're when you think about actually the stuff that doesn't matter, you're attracting more of that, of like. So if I focus on, and I know this now because I'm wise now in that respect, if I focus on the negative, that's what I'm gonna attract more of. So I try to focus on the positive, but then again, I am a realistic person and analytical. So we do need to think about like, and I always talk about and joke about this with my um colleagues or my inner circle about we need to think about the SWOT analysis, which is the strengths, the weaknesses, the opportunities, the threats. We need to focus on those things when we're thinking about a situation. So, all in all, that's where I'm at right now with this dark night of assault, is just questioning everything. Sitbacks teach you things that become part of your bones. Your wisdom, the rais, your roots. Lessons no one will ever take from you. Here are some lessons that come during these emotional seasons. Number one, you are more resilient than you think. You've survived 100% of your hardest days. Number two, rest is a strategy, not a weakness. Your body guides your alignment. Number three, your intuition always knows before your mind does. When your intuition says, not this, listen. Number four, boundaries become clearer during chaos. The moments that break you also reveal who is truly for you. Number five, you can grieve and grow at the same time. Healing is holding both. It's a duality, it's emerging like the phoenix. Number six, every setback rearranges something inside you. Your identity shifts, your priorities shift, your desires shift. Number seven, you can't return to who you were, but you can honor her. The old you isn't gone. She's integrated, she's thinking, she's released. Now, let's bring in the astrology. Now, if you're listening to it real time, today, December 4th of 2025, the moon reaches peak illumination at 6.14 p.m. Eastern Time. That's 5 14 p.m. Central Time, the final supermoon of the year. According to this moon brings highlights to endings, closure, emotional clarity, releasing identity layers, reflection, illumination of what's been hidden, truths rising to the surface, rebuilding trust, self-trust for that matter, forgiveness of self, letting go of survival versions of ourselves. So this cold moon asks us to reflect on the question of what are you ready to finally let go of before stepping into 2026? This moon is also a mirror. So it shows you your patterns, your emotional truth, your attachments, your wounds, your desires, your strength. Full moons bring endings. Super moons amplify emotions. Cold moons deepen self-reflection. So no wonder it feels heavy and emotional this time around. But the mean, so also it is powerful. It is cleansing, it's it is clarifying. This full moon clears your path for the next version of you. So take a moment to reflect on what are the things that you want to bring in and let go. So first let go, so in order for you to be able to bring in. And that's a conversation I was having with someone actually today, of letting go of all the things that don't serve us. And I know it's easier said and done, but for me, it's letting go of that. Like I started off with the episode of this old conditioning mindset of scarcity, of thinking I'm still broke, I'm thinking of all these things, the lack and the negative patterns and spirals that I go myself and rabbit holes that I dig myself into. That's where I'm trying to figure out what are the next steps. But in order for me to do that, I need to really just prune. And prune the tree, prune the things. Um, similar to what my physical wounds are going through, it's cleaning out the gunk, cleaning out the stuff that no longer serves, um, and then letting that fleshy skin heal from the inside out. And that's exactly what I'm doing on an energetic soul level and also mental plane. I'm also doing those things. So it gives us something to think about, especially during this powerful day of a full moon. Let's talk about how to recover from a setback, not just emotionally, but energetically, spiritually, physically. So number one is acknowledge the setback without judgment. So you can tell yourself something along the lines of no estoy bien. And that's okay. So I'm not okay, but that's okay not to be okay. Number two, validate your emotions. So create this space where you give your emotions and allow them to come up to the surface. And remember that your feelings are messengers. Number three, release the expectation that you should be over it, whatever, I mean, quote unquote over it. So you're on this journey, right? We're on this journey together, and I'm here with you side by side, and we're healing. So you're healing, and it we're it's not a race, okay? So it's not a race on how you go through it, and if somebody else, especially if you start looking into another person's lane, how they're handling it, how they're going through it. Um that's something very personal to you and honor that. Whatever it is that is happening to you is actually happening for you. So changing the perspective a little bit there. Number four is create emotional space. So clear the space, honor yourself, and you can do this by lighting a candle, you can lay on the floor. My favorite is to cry it out, remember to breathe, or you can even, if you have the ability to be in a car, you can scream in a car, and my also my other favorite is to move your body. So um go ahead and listen to music, put on your favorite jam, dance it out. For me, it's Marc Anthony Vivir la vida, because it's just an anthem to life, and that's where honor what what's coming up for you? Is it a cumbia? Is it a salsa? Is it like a more of a ballad? Is it, you know, like a Whitney Houston song kind of thing by Michael Jackson? Get you, you know, like I'm bad, I'm kidding. You know, it's you get it, you know, going through the motions. Um, but do a shimmy shimmy, or a Zumba song or reggae tonight I love those songs, but it's move your body, move that energy around. That's what's gonna definitely make it where it moves out of you. And another exercise you could definitely implement is journaling, um, and putting your thoughts all the way on paper, and you can burn it, you can rip it up, especially during this full moon. It's such a great ritual. Number five, do a cold moon limpia ritual. So here's a simple full moon ritual aligned with um what I normally teach on. And so some materials are a white candle, some palo santo or sage, a glass of water, paper and a pen, and a crystal. So it can be a clear quartz or a selenite. And so here is a quick process. Number one is cleanse your space with the Palo Santo or Sage. Ground your breath is number two. And so I love to do the four breaths in, hold it up for four, and then six breaths out. And then number three is write down what you're releasing. I released the version of me who, and then dot dot dot, fill in the blank. Number four is read it out loud, under the moon, or by the window. So if you can outside, right now it's really cold in Chicago, or just by the window, you can go ahead and just read your intention out loud. Number five is fold it and place it under the glass of water. Number six is let the candle burn for at least ten minutes. Number seven, thank the old you for getting you here. And that's where every piece of the journey. Is very valuable because it starts shaping you into the person and the version that you are right now. Number six, rebuild yourself gently. Ask yourself, what do I need? Who do I need? And what am I learning? And that could be for yourself or what you what is this experience or what is this that you put out there with the intention? Digging a little deeper on that. Number seven is move with presence, not pressure. So you're not the same woman you were last month or a year ago specifically. So why would you move the same? That's where honoring yourself where you're at at this particular point in place in life. And that's what I'm doing with myself too. Live in the present moment. And I know it sounds cliche, but the present is a present to itself, right? Like that's where going through the motions on a day-to-day basis, step by step. That's where just focus one thing at a time, and you'll get there. And that's one thing that I've been learning this past couple months is focus on the one thing. One thing that's going to move the needle, one thing that's going to liberate you from all the things. But experiencing setback doesn't mean that you are a failure. It means that it's a learning experience. Take it as a learning curve. And what is it that you could do differently? What do you want to focus on? There's definitely a lesson in all of this. And don't beat yourself up because that's something I would do in my previous version of myself. I would beat myself up, call myself like all these things, especially a loser, que pendeja, and this and that. And it's not even like that. It's there's might have been a blind spot. It might have been something didn't come out calculated as you thought. And life is not actually calculated. I'm an accountant. I am an analyst, an analyst, and I love for everything to reconcile, but it's not always going to come out footed down to the penny. That's not how it's going to work. And I think that's how I've been, that's how I've tried to function with life is like very calculated. And I will admit, I am not recovering if not seriously addicted to control, because I like to know what happens from E to Z. And this whole process in retrospect is making me learn to really value the not knowing what is next. Don't get car me. I need to go with the flow, go through the motions, and be flexible. And that is something very hard for me to do, especially being taken care of others. Holy moly, like, whew, that's that's that's a hard one. And accepting, learning to accept and receive all that love and support that is all around me. And so el orgullo, I often joke with my husband, el orgullo often does not let you do anything. So being proud sometimes inhibits you from seeing all the beautiful things that are that are around you. So that definitely is a syndrome. So pause and really be present with yourself and don't pressure yourself into something that you feel like you have to perform or or somebody else has to approve or validate. No, no, no. You need to approve, you need to validate. Because at the end of the day, you're signing a contract with yourself on a daily basis, based on the way you think, based on the day and the way you talk to each other or others, or you're to yourself. Like you get to show up that full authentic version of you and whatever that is. And if you feel ashamed or embarrassed to show up a certain way or be your goofy self, either something's not in alignment. Like that person, relationship, something's off. Um, that or you're putting on a facade. I'm just gonna be straight with you because that was me for a number of years. When I would go to work, I would show up a certain way. When I was with my family, I would show up a certain way. And I am a goofy self. I do like to echarrelajo. I like to just joke around with people, and sometimes people take me way too seriously because they think, holy moly, like she's serious business because you know I have all the accolades and things of that, but I'm a person too. I like to joke around and not to be taken seriously all the time. But then again, I do have a resting bitch face. So what what what can I say, right? It's like I'm not mad, it's just that's just my face. What do you want me to do about it? Deep side here. Um, yeah, there's a lot going on in my mind. But overall, you know what your intention is at the end of the day. Is it malicious or is it good intentions? Are you doing it to get something, or are you doing it because you're of a good deed, because you really feel it in your heart? And I think that's the the bulk of it is lead with the heart. Because I always thought lead with the mind, the rational, and sometimes some of the biggest decisions are based on the heart, and your mind can't keep up, and they're super irrational. So I'll leave you with that. So after every dark night comes a dawn, the new youth starts to emerge quietly. You say no way faster, you prioritize differently, your body feels safer, your intuition gets louder, your standards rise, your compassion deepens, you trust yourself more. So rebirth isn't dramatic, like a telenovela. It's subtle, it's steady, it's embodied. So as astrologers would say, your chart, your birth chart evolves as you evolve. And because there's transits in all the various things, but you are entering a season where purpose becomes clearer, healing becomes deeper, your voice gets stronger, your boundaries get firmer, your energy becomes sacred, your identity expands. The old you is not dying, so I'm not dying. She is graduating, she is passing the torch, and the new you, she already exists, she's just waiting for you to make space. So again, I invite you to release what the patterns, the thinking, the everything that no longer serves you, prune it out, like scape, scapel that out and make room for the new because she's out there and she's just waiting to step in. And for me, it's envisioning how that version of me that I want to call in looks like. And I know for me with chemo treatment, there was this one lady last week, this past week, that told me that she went through chemo, and it was really inspiring to me because she said that the first after the first chemo, she her hair started falling out, so she shaved her head. And I don't know if that's gonna happen to me or not, but I do plan to just I'm open to the idea of just shaving my head. Um, and she said after that, after the first chemo, she was able to regenerate her body in the way of like her skin was better than ever. Once she was done with chemo, her hair came back better than ever. So I feel like that's the approach I'm gonna take with this because I am really, really scared as fuck about this chemo because I thought, oh goodness gracious, it's just gonna totally like knock me over. But my mom and my grandma and my aunts keep reminding me that my grandfather had prostate cancer and he did chemo, and he didn't lose his hair, he didn't lose his appetite, he didn't like look like he was sick at all. I mean, obviously we knew he had cancer, prostate cancer, but I feel like that's the ancestor that's rooting for me on the other side, and I feel it. It's like my dad, too, with the heart disease. He he didn't go down without a fight. So that's definitely my ancestors that are ruining for me on the other side. So I'm just praying for the guidance at this point with God, divine source, spirit, to guide me and lead me through this journey. Because yes, it does take a lot of resilience. I am very scared, but then again, I'm just walking in this path, knowing that each step that I take, it's being led, divinely led. And hopefully through my journey, I'm able to show and showcase that anything's possible. That cancer and this journey doesn't have to look all doomsday and you can't fulfill your things. If anything, it's very different than the gym, because the gym was very physical, right? That I was doing stuff to my body and it was getting better and I was getting thinner and I lost all this weight and I felt so good. This is definitely a mental game for me, and it's a mental challenge and an obstacle course, which I signed up for, I guess, in in this lifetime, and I'm willing to do anything that it takes, especially lean on those people now that I understand that provide that support for me. But I have to be clear on my boundaries and I have to be clear with myself on what do I want. If this episode spoke to your heart, take a moment tonight under the cold supermoon to honor yourself. Again, it takes up to 72 hours that you can do this ritual. So honor your growth, honor your pain, honor your becoming. And if you're ready to go deeper, my offerings, limpias, and coaching sessions are all at www.dorapraxedis.com. And on Instagram, you can definitely follow my story and my journey at D P R A X E D I S. Or you can share this episode with someone who might be struggling, or someone who needs to hear that a setback is not the end. It's a turning point. Until next time, mi reina, mi gente hermosa, embrace your raíces, reclaim your essencia. I'll see you under the moonlight. Hasta la próxima. Bye.
