Crossing the Year Gently - Honoring Quiet Power

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Start the year softer, not louder. After a season marked by grief, health scares, and relationship strain, we’re choosing integration over reinvention and safety over speed. I share the real story behind chemo day one, the ache of anniversaries, and the marriage moments that nearly broke us, then describe how rest, boundaries, and nervous system care put the pieces back in place. If “new year, new me” rings hollow, this conversation offers a grounded alternative: peace as a practice, not a prize.

We dive into identity shifts and the power of a personal contract to anchor who you are becoming—compassionate, courageous, and clear—without performing for approval. We talk money fears with honesty, from rising costs to paused income, and how coupling practical steps with body-based regulation calms scarcity. You’ll hear why rest comes before action, why fixing others drains your life force, and how to stop shrinking to remain palatable. Expect language around ancestral patterns, intuitive discernment, and the kind of boundaries that feel loving, not harsh.

This is a space for first-gen women, caregivers, and anyone done carrying what was never theirs. You’ll get simple practices to return to yourself—hand on chest and belly, a minute of quiet, a single honest question—and a clear reminder that peace is productive and rest is intelligent. I’m also opening limited 1:1 coaching spots, planning masterclasses on emotional regulation, money wounds, and nervous system healing, and rolling out a Spanish version to better serve our comunidad.

Want a calm way to begin? Grab the free new year grounding guide in the show notes, subscribe for the upcoming series, and share this with someone who needs a gentler path. If this spoke to you, leave a review and tell me: what are you done carrying this year?

Chapters

• 0:00 Naming A Gentle New Year
• 2:26 Truth, Grief, And The Body
• 5:10 Marriage, Fractures, And Realignment
• 7:30 Identity Shifts And Money Fears
• 10:05 Fatigue, Health Scares, And Surrender
• 13:20 Rethinking Goals And Body Care
• 16:10 Safety Over Hustle
• 18:20 Release What Was Never Yours
• 21:10 Rest First, Then Action
• 23:30 Worth, Trauma, And Alignment
• 26:00 The Woman You’re Becoming

Transcript

Dora: 0:06

Ai Mijita, welcome back to I Mihita Embracing Raíces Reclaiming Your Essentia. If this is your first time here, bienvenida. And if you've been here through the seasons, through the tears, the realizations, those quiet breakthroughs, thank you for walking with me. This episode isn't about starting over. It's about honoring the road that brought you here. Because this past year, 2025, was not light for many of us. And I want to name something gently and honestly. If you're entering this new year feeling quieter instead of louder, more discerning instead of excited, more embodied instead of ambitious, you're not behind. You're actually integrated. So take a breath with me. Inhale and exhale. Nothing needs to be fixed right now. Just honor whatever's coming up right now for you. And grab your cafecito, something, a beverage of toys, and let's get into today's episode. Celebrating this new year 2026. Um wishing you the best in all areas. Amor, prosperidad, so love and prosperity, compassion for yourself. But today we're definitely gonna get into how we're gonna head into this new year. This last year didn't ask us to glow up. It asked us to tell the truth. For me, this past year held grief that really never leaves. So especially with my dad passing away in 2019 and it being so close to my birthday, that was something that's been recurring year over year. But every year I kind I know that I'm growing. And it's like a wound, right? It's so deep. But year over year I notice how it's scarring. So I held my body asking for rest in ways I couldn't ignore, especially with this cancer journey. And last Friday, um, that's December 26th, right? The day after Christmas. How how shitty could that be sometimes? I had my first chemo treatment. And so far I'm ham handling and I'm managing, but I do realize that I am still tender in many ways. Like my abs, because they went through my abs. They also, when I got my breast reconstruction, they went through my um chest um cavity, so in my chest, like my ribs. And that's where rest has been such a crucial part for me. Um, as impatient as I am to get back to the gym and do all the things, I am taking it nice and slow, but it held the humbling experience of navigating this cancer and the treatments, and especially learning surrender. It held moments where I realized strength wasn't about pushing, it's about listening, and especially listening to my body. And maybe your year looked different. But I know this much. If you didn't get through it by accident, some of you faced health scares, navigated family fractures, and of course, nunca falta el family drama. I mean, especially in a Mexican family, I know that firsthand. Like, achievement goes around real quick. We don't need no Facebook for that. Or you questioned your relationships, like who did I have to let go? Something changed, maybe you have less tolerance for certain things. I know sure hella that my relationship with my husband, Philly, has definitely changed throughout these months. Um, side note here, sidebar. Um, I think last year or two years ago, uh, Philly and I we were actually dropping the D-word on each other, or he actually dropped it on me, divorce. And that was something that was really hard for me to even unfathom the idea. But it got me thinking, it's like, shit, I'm not doing anything wrong. Why is this coming up? But he felt such a strong so strongly in his way of we weren't getting on the same page, that that really threw our relationship in a funk. Given that there were other elements in our relationship that were external that had a lot to do with it, but I always believe source, divine, god, universe, it always tends to throw everything back into alignment. And I know I'm a fair I'm I love to follow the moon and the astrology of things and eclipse seasons and all. And and yeah, I've been it's been pretty much on nail on the head with all the different things that it hit in my astrology chart. So that's something I follow. But again, your relationships, like friendships. I know for me, there's been people that are reconnected after ooh, many, many, many years, but and I've gotten to see so many friends that ooh, it's been such a long time just to give them a good squeeze and a hug, and and even those that are virtual, like I sense or long-distance friendships and relationships, it's like I sense that they're next to me, and it's such a beautiful thing to have and feel supported and loved just the way you are, como eres. So this also leads into refining your identity. Like, who are you? I know I tell myself every single day my contract that which I am in a and I'm so excited because I invested in October, and this is right after um actually no, it was back in September, actually. It was like two days after I discovered um I had breast cancer. I invested in this coaching program, and let's just say I'm dropping double digit, I mean, no, not double digit, thousands of dollars on it, but I am learning so much from it. And at first I didn't think it was a good fit, but then I started to discover damn this identity shift for me is huge because I am honing into what my personal contract is, which is I am a compassionate, transformational, courageous leader, and I am owning it, I am embodying it, and I think that's something that I'm like, I feel like I'm carrying the torch and I'm running the damn marathon in here, and I'm crossing that finish line with the fucking torch all the way up there because I feel like I am in my identity finally. Like, como si se así como las uñas, saco las uñas, like I'm I'm the claws are out, that type of thing. And so another thing that you may have experienced that I'm experiencing is confronting my money fears, like not working for two months definitely throws a wrench in things. Fortunately, I did have short-term disability lined up and they are paying me out, but still, like all these hospital bills, um, things that need to be due, mortgage, like there's a lot of expenses, especially during the holidays. Um, living expenses are going up year over year. I mean, eggs last year, come on, like who knew stuff was gonna go up that much? And I'm not gonna go into politics or religion and in the works, but like there's a lot of things that come up with like the economy and decision makers and the government and all the things that influence and the news and all those things that it creates this angst, this fear. And for me, it definitely rocked my boat. Um, not knowing what the future holds, right? It's uh hopefully everything goes up, up, up, up, up, but when it works for us, but when it works against us, that's when we start going into anxiety and and uh again, all the shenanigans. But I I learned, and maybe you learned as well, on how tired you actually are. Like, that's where before this cancer diagnosis, man, I was tired. Um, that was cansada. Like my body felt tired, I felt lethargic. I mean, I went through some other things throughout like in March of last year. I had a stent put in because my vein was blocked on once on my left side, and it could be it could be genetics, it could be due to childbearing. I mean, who knows? But the thing was that my body created a whole nother vein on the right side. I mean, who would have known that my body was gonna create such a thing? But anywho, um, just listening to your body, emotions, grief, happiness, like what all the everything. Like, for me, I really got into touch into how am I going through life? Like, especially after you get diagnosed with cancer, it's like como ves la vida, prioritize the shit that matters, right? It's not something where you want to go through life and just do the mind-numbing. I mean, I love my job and everything, but deadlines and and always grinding and hustling, the procrastination is real for me because I feel like I have a fire in my ass and I get shit done and I do well under pressure, but that's no life to live. And especially suppressing my emotions. So instead of collapsing, I soften I softened, you might have softened, to life, and that matters. So before we move forward, I'm just gonna pause here and ask yourself what did this year of 2025 teach me about myself that I cannot unlearn? And just sit with that. There was a time when January meant for me planners, like no joke, I have like four different planners. Given some of our gifted, some of them are 90-day stuff. Every planner for me does its purpose, and consequently, I have different goals. So that's where I have my business goals, I have my work goals, my personal life goals, my fitness goals, my spiritual goals, I mean, a little bit of everything. And sometimes I would create vision boards. Um, I would put my Land Rover that I want, my Land Rover Range Rover that I'll get one day, um, my expensive ass purses that I want, but like the emotions too of like feeling that peace and joy, the healthness, the health wellness, um, like having a flippin' ripped body, like toned. I I mean, actually, this past month I I kind of have to celebrate myself here because with my surgeries, I gained 24 pounds. So I went from 170 to 194. And it was kind of depressing for me because I thought two weeks after surgery I would have lost, you know, weight, but actually I gained like 10 pounds. So I I was I I've been walking and I've been slowly integrating like movement and range of motion, which I did go to the occupational therapist last week and I am in full range of motion. She says that it she never sees anybody at and I'm seven and a half weeks. Um Monday, upcoming Monday, I will be when this episode drops, uh January 5th of 2026, I will be eight weeks after my um breast reconstruction surgery. So I've been going to Orange Theory and doing the work, so just a little plug there on my on my journey. But I lost 10 pounds, so this morning I weighed myself 179. Um, and then I always every year in January, I feel like I have to prove something like throughout the year, or I have to like figure out, oh, uh I'm doing this and that, and I just did that right now with you. Um, but when you've been cracked open by life, the body no longer responds to force. Like you can't force shit to happen. Your nervous system wants safety, not the slogans, the affirmations, the everything, um, the new year, new me kind of thing. However, I do appreciate that vibe. But this is especially true for like first gen women like me, where you feel like you always have to fucking perform. And that's where, um, you know, that's where here on the podcast, like calzón quitado, like you know, panties off kind of thing, raw, you know, as a first gen, like I'm uh we're taught to be grateful, to keep going, to don't complain, just handle you the shit, like just take it, go through the chaos, like you know, like a quieras lurar, if you don't want to cry, like just suck it up. But healing asks a different question. Like, what do I need in order to stay with myself this year? Not what you can accomplish, not what you can tolerate. What allows you to remain present in this moment, in this now? Like, give yourself permission to have that space for yourself, even if it is like a minute or two. Go to the potty, sit. I mean, that's my favorite place in the world, sit in the potty, no phone, no nothing, just you and yourself and your feelings and whatever's going on. This is the year we stop abandoning ourselves for momentum. Like, we don't need to get more shit done. If anything, we need to go internally, we need to like tap in and see how the F we are wired, and how we how we como late el corazon, like how how does the heart beat? Like, what gets you going? What's passionate for you? What gets you happy? What gives you that peace and joy? Because there is no amount in the world that will give you that peace and joy. Like, there's no monetary value to it, it's priceless. If you can, you can place one hand on your chest and one on your belly. And of course, if you're offering machinery or you're driving, obviously don't do this. But if you have a moment, again place one hand on your chest, one on your belly, let's mark this threshold together for this new year 2026. And if you're catching on a replay in the future, just tap in and hone in because this is timeless. And ask yourself what am I done carrying that that has never been mine to begin with? What am I done carrying that was never mine to begin with? And maybe that is emotional labor like going through and and self-sacrificing. Or it might look like being the strong one, like everybody comes to you, and you that's because you know how to Google and you know how to chat GPT and you know how to do all the fancy things, and you always have the right answers. Or it might be fixing others. Oh my! Like, oh, you always have to be like the one with the mop, like the janitor of the family, or of your collective, like your family, friends, co-workers, whatnot in the workplace, or wherever you go, you feel like you gotta clean everybody's shit up. Or it might be over-explaining yourself. Like, I do this all the time. I overcompensate when I don't need to. Like, no, less is more. Or it might be like dimming your light, shrinking to be palatable to people because they just can't handle your energy. Um, I have certain people in my life that I would like to remain anonymous, very close to me, that they're just loud people by nature, and that's great, but sometimes it does get a little annoying, like to my husband or to myself, because we're very like chill people. And I know like my daughter has mentioned this to me before, but it's it's like, but those people shouldn't shrink, like that's their energy, that's how they flow, and and you and that same thing for you goes, is don't shrink, don't shrink your light, don't shrink your voice, just for other people, like you be you. The other big one that I've recently really embodied and learned is earning the rest. That is not something we do, we need to do is feel like we need to, like, oh, I worked so hard and I hustled and everything. Now I'm gonna rest. No, no, no. It should be the other way around. You should be going into the hustle, if you want to hustle, with being rested, 100% battery, like gifts and gowns. Why would we go into something empty, empty tink, empty, you're you're just asking for it's a flip and recipe to disaster. Like you don't have the energy, you're probably irritated as fuck, like there's certain things that are going on, and you're you're just like it's just a like something ticking, like a bomb wing and tick and explode, a volcano, I call it volcano moments where you just like everything just boils up and then just pops. So I want you to ask yourself what part of me deserves more gentleness this year, and it's not discipline, it's gentleness. Your body has been loyal to you for so long. And I don't care if you're sitting right here and you're like, oh, you know what? Like, I have a few pounds to lose, I have I don't look like my body doesn't look the way I should, like it should. Um, I don't feel like I'm accomplished. It's like girl, let me just tone it back and dial it back a little bit. You have been to so many different circumstances that it has shaped you to be the woman and the person that you are right now, today. And I want you to honor it. You have gone through, and I don't know who needs to hear this, but you have gone through so many different things, experiences, drama, um, peleas with yourself, like you bought yourself, and you need to celebrate the person you are right here and be in this present moment. Because you value a lot, you're like the gem. I always tell this to one of my close peeps in my in my family is you are the gem in the deep, deep sea with such a huge heart. But because over time, with circumstances and events and situations and people, like you build, we not you only, but we all build layers like an onion. And these are traumas, these are things that happen. Like, I don't know any human being on this on the face of this earth so far that has not had a trauma. Because those things shape you, the experience shapes you. I always feel like I'm going on the highway and I have to take and I take a detour. It could be because of construction, it could be because you know I wanted I was hungry or we needed to gas up or whatever. And those are the things that shape you. And for me, I always now believe strongly that it's divine timing. It's it's supposed to get you back into alignment. And I always have this beauty of seeing the positive in a situation of chaos and garbage and everything. I'm really good at sorting things out. And people come to me, they gravitate towards me. My clients gravitate towards me because they want that clarity. They want to know what is the next step. I have no idea. And it could be something so simple to filling out paperwork, passports, to I have legit issues with my husband or my family member or this relationship, or I can't find true love. And because I have the accounting background, it's also about money. Like all this scarcity mindset. And girl, I've been there. Like, ooh, my husband and I, we get into it. I mean, it's been now counting these past few times, it's been probably five times in our relationship of 23 years that we've always divorced. Because I can't stand the man and he can't stand me. But hablamos habla, you know, sentiende la gente. So talking, you understand each other. And those are all things you have to honor.

SPEAKER_00: 21:28

Where you're at right now.

Dora: 21:37

The woman you are becoming this year, she listens before she commits. She feels before she decides. She moves slower but with clarity. And she doesn't rush healing to make others feel comfortable. Uh-uh. No, no, no, we're not doing that. She knows that peace is productive. Rest is a smart move. It's intelligent. Boundaries, those are loving. And coming from a very loving and compassionate place. And if a part of you is scared of disappointing people by choosing yourself, that is not intuition. If it sounds like your mommy, your daddy, or your tia or something nagging at you, that's conditioning. So you are allowed to evolve, to grow. And if it's fear that you you feel fear when you're doing something, you're actually probably stepping in the right direction. It's getting you outside that comfort zone where everything's cool, everything's chill until some shit breaks. That's when you know, okay, now we gotta remediate. Now we have to pay attention. And I'm here to celebrate that part of you that you're moving into this direction of feeling that feeling that you want to feel. For me, it's peace and joy and ease. That's my word of the year for 2026 is ease. And I know I'm not gonna work hard, I'm not gonna hustle. Monday, January 5th, 2026, I start work again, and I'm not gonna work in the same way I used to. And with my clients, I will give them space, I will provide them space. I will I know that in a short amount of time we have such breakthroughs and transformations happen. Magic happens, but it's opening up that sacred container. Now, this podcast is not about perfection, it's about remembrance. So in the weeks ahead, I have a little teaser for you because I'm changing things up. Well, we're talking about the same things, but a little more formatted. And I I do have like a strategic plan for 2026, which I'm excited about. And I, you know what? Honestly, throughout this cancer journey and starting chemo, maybe it's the first one, I've never felt such gratitude for life and all the things, the support, the I mean, I'm never gonna get sick of saying how grateful I am for every seed that I've planted in my life. God is good, God is really good, and divine energy is that's where I wake up every day and I just say, work through me, be let me be the vessel, surprise me. There's so many synchronicities, serendipitous moments. It's just timing, divine timing. I'll say I couldn't have done it better myself. Like I've let ego drive so long that I am so ready. This past year, I've learned to flip and surrender on my knees and kiss baby Jesus' toes. Like, if I needed to, you know, if he could be in front of me, like I would totally would. So in the coming weeks, I'll be talking about emotional regulation, money wounds, the nervous system healing, ancestral patterns, intuitive discernment. So I'm really excited about this stuff because I'm coming out with not only I'm gonna open up some coaching one-on-one spots in the month of January, they are gonna be limited. Um, but I'm also working on a few like masterclasses, I have things in the in the calendar, and I'm just talking to my people um to put stuff together and and provide this to the community. And I am also in the process of doing this episode in Spanish. So definitely if you are um Spanish-only speaker or you like to listen to this in Spanish, not it's not gonna be like verbatim uh mirroring everything, but it I'm just gonna roll it out. So I know our community needs this, especially when it comes to health issues and we're not prepared for a situation. Like, I really want to provide that background and education. But if you're craving something slower, more intentional, more honest, I've created something for you: a new year grounding guide you can download for free to help you reflect, release, and enter this year without abandoning yourself. So you'll find that link in the show notes. So, Mijita, I ring in this new year and I wish you the best of everything. And you made it here for a reason. So honor whatever's coming up for you. And if you want to talk some more, you can find me on Instagram at deepraxedis, check out my website, dorapraxedis.com. And if anything, you can send me a text or a voice memo down below. There's a link for it as well. Alrighty, catch you soon. As always, sending you so much love. Embrace your ISIS, reclaim your essential. We'll see you next time. Bye.